LESSON #11: FORGET FORGIVENESS

This Week’s assignment poses a much different way of looking at forgiveness. It is a powerful examination from an alternative view of emotional healing, a work in progress. I am excited to hear how you relate to this take on forgiveness. Olivia Porter is a speech pathologist, actress, and communications consultant, who has traveled the country facilitating high-energy, interactive workshops. In her impactful talk. She asserts that the true path to love is to forget forgiveness and harness hate.

View the TED Talk: Forget Forgiveness and Harness Hate by Olivia Porter
After watching the video please complete the Assignment below and email to Dr Hughes.

Assignment 11.1

Summary

1. Summarize the major points in the video.
2. How does Olivia describe the difference between hate and anger?
3. How does hate teach us what we love?

Analysis

Be cautious to separate the person from the action: “I hate what my co-parent does.” Not, “I hate my co-parent.”

1. What “actions” do you find the most irritating or agitating about your co-parent?
2. How does separating your co-parent from their actions help you focus on what makes you angry; what you value?
3. How does Forget Forgiveness lead to problem solving?

Application

1. Write three actions or statements you “hate” about your co-parent; how do you feel they have wronged you?
2. Now turn those three sentences into “love” sentences; what they or you value.
   Example:
   I hate that my co-parent filed for divorce after our last fight.
   I love that my co-parent decided it was time for an intervention.

Study Hall

1. Discuss how perception (good, bad, hard to say) and separating the person from the action relate to co-parenting.
2. How do you apply the three keys (conflict resolution) to forget forgiveness; especially acceptance and setting boundaries?
3. How does this TED Talk lead to reconciliation rather than forgiveness?

Assignments Due

1. The Final PowerPoint presentation is due no later than this Friday. Please email it to Dr. Hughes: btlc9500@gmail.com
2. Email your Draft Parent Narrative to the Instructor (your final version is due in Lesson 12.1). Please email it to Dr. Hughes: btlc9500@gmail.com

Weekly Wrap-Up

1. What three or more ideas, thoughts or skills were the most helpful to you in this lesson? Give examples.

Be sure to SHARE your papers with the class via email by cc’ing everyone from a separate thread.

FORGET FORGIVENESS BY: (Your Name). Be sure to add reflections to each other’s work.